What the hell is cybersex?

Dibell's article "A Rape in Cyberspace" especially interests me because of the question of physicality in this "cyberworld." The whole idea of cybersex takes technophilia to a new level, as well as offering an interesting perspective on voyeurism, agency, vulnerability, safety in the suppose anonymity and detachment offered by the internet. Also, where does this idea place the body within this space? It occupies a mediated position; as Dibell writes, "No bodies touched. Whatever physical interaction occurred consisted of a mingling of electronic signals sent from sites as distant from each other as the eastern seaboard of the United States and the southern coast of Australia" (14). However, these experiences are exceedingly real to those who experience them: "Small wonder, then, that a newbie's first taste of MUD sex is often also the first time she or he surrenders wholly to the quirky terms of MUDdish ontology, recognizing in a full-bodied way that what happens inside a MUD-made world is neither real nor exactly make-believe, but nonetheless profoundly, compellingly, and emotionally true" (17). Where is the difference between what is "real" and "make-believe/VR"? I think perhaps it lies in the sharing of that experience with others. Communities grow around these virtual realities because there is an element of reality in the contact made with other users. But where is the body in this? Does anyone else see a striking similarity in this cyber-rape to the scene of Corinne's "confession" in Weekend?